I recently started a coaching and mastermind group. It is meant to help other entrepreneurs on their online journey. I do that well, I've been helping people master technology for over a decade and being an entrepreneur myself, I can also help them learn the ropes of online businesses. This morning I sat down to write this for them, and after a few paragraphs I realized that maybe you also need to hear this so Instead of posting it just on my private group, I thought I'd share it with you here on the blog.
To the OMG members:
(thanks Elsa for pointing out that Acronym)
I've talked to a few members this past week and some of you are going through some rough times. I thought I would tell you a little bit about motivation and these situations we find ourselves in when we're trying to make things work.
Being an entrepreneur is tough. It is much tougher than doing a normal 9 - 5 job. The reward is awesome, financially and emotionally. The freedom, invaluable. But things don't always work out when we want them, the way we want them. But the thing is to never give up.
If you really believe in what you're doing, then there is no "going back" there is no throwing in the towel. Very often the minute you quit is only a few minutes before success.
I've thought about giving up several times in the past, and each time that I was ready to throw in the towel I reconsidered and let things be for one more hour, day, week. and then I tried harder. Then things materialized.
I'm not saying that things will just magically fall from the sky. But sometimes the success comes after the hardest effort and only right after. It's like climbing a mountain. Often times, the last mile of a hike is the toughest, it's steep, and you're tired and you're thirsty. Then you reach the summit and all the pain is forgotten for the realization that you made it. The breeze cools you off, and you remember this is where you wanted to be all along. You are glad you didn't turn around 30 minutes or an hour ago because you would have missed the view.
Take breaks along the way, yes. But don't give up. If something isn't working, then pivot, change something. It is crazy to continue on a failing path --that's not what Im saying you should do. But you should work through your difficulties because once you get those worked out, the rewards come. Everyday you can fix something, adjust something and do more, make more, be better.
Regardless of your current state of mind, you also must remember to stay out of your comfort zone. The comfort zone is the failure zone. "Dabblers" stay in their comfort zone because they want to dabble on something before they jump on it, and at the first sign of discomfort, failure or unknown, they come back to their safety net. That will never get you anywhere.
If you believe in what you're doing, then do it. If you don't believe in it enough to pull all the stops, then why are you doing it? I doubt, I fear, I fail everyday, but I use that to my advantage, those emotions motivate me to do better than yesterday. Don't let uncertainty, fear and doubt take over, look at fear in the face and let it feed you. Let it recharge you and give you a boost to climb the last mile. It will only make you stronger for tomorrow's journey, when it will begin all over.
How do you expect others to believe in you when you let doubt take over? Stop that. You have an able mind, hopefully able body, and 12 - 14 hours each day to sculpt your destiny.
Ask for help, seek advice, find a mentor. But don't give up because you have a bad week, or a bad month. I've had a full bad year and more in the past. This is why I have this group. For me to help you guys and to get help from you, to learn from you as you learn from me. So cheer up, it's Friday. Take a deep breath and go kick some ass.